Dear Meagan,
Hi beautiful! So things are absolutely soaring with your upcoming wigs for kids event! You are doing a great job- and I am so excited to help you promote it :) Mom told me part of the hair cuts and cash donations may also go to mAss kickers, which I know is an organization you are very passionate about! You are doing such an amazing thing and I can't believe how self-less yet fierce my sister is!
You also are proving to be an absolute rock star in terms of your class at OU-- a 94% on your first test!?! Who know you were such a smartie ;) Keep up the great work Meaggy- you are such an inspiration! Especially to others who may be going through or have gone through similar situations as you.
So I am currently reading a book called, "The Magic of Thinking Big" by Dr. David Schwartz. I felt a recent reading fit in perfectly with where you are at in your development and success!
The section is about not seeing things the way they are, but seeing what them the way they could be. And as you start to plan things, the ability to see people and things as they could be instead of as they are is crucial. I feel like you already know this from personal experience sissy :) Just a few short months ago, you saw yourself as the way you were, but now you see yourself as the way you can be- and that has caused so much momentum in you, that I am sure you will achieve your goal of being self-sustained and making a difference in other brain tumor survivors lives- you are already doing it!
So the following three exercises Dr. Schwartz talks about are the "practice adding value" exercises.
1. Practice adding value to things. Look for ways to make things worth more. A thing has value in proportion to the ideas for using it. A great example of this is your wigs for kids event. The creation of the event in general is a phenomenal thing- however when you added the aspect of it being a mAss kicker event too- you really added value to it!
2. Practice adding value to people. As you continue to move forward in your life both on a personal growth level and economically, there will be more and more instances of you being in a position to participate in "people development." Continue to ask yourself, 'what can I do to help those around me become more effective and to grow?' The tricky part is in order to bring out the best in a person, you have to visualize them at their best. Always look at people as where they could be instead of where they are and you will be amazed at how they will live up to your positive expectation :)
3. Practice adding value to yourself. A good way to do this is to conduct a daily interview with yourself. Ask, 'what can I do to make myself more valuable today?' Again don't just think of yourself as you are, but think of yourself as you could be. This should just get easier and easier for you since you have already begun to do this! Once you see yourself as you could and will be, ways for attaining your potential value will pop up in front of you, and your potential achievement will become a reality :)
Keep smiling Meggy, keep laughing off the small things, keep growing, keep being self-less, keep being you- because you are truly so unique and special-- the world is lucky to have you!
XOXO,
Brooke
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
Wednesday, September 19, 2012
Cautious/ Sensitive Personality Type
Dear Meagan,
Ok, so last week I posted about a seminar I went to where we learned about different personalities. You let me know that you are a cautious type- followed by sensitive! Here are some of the traits about each of these personalities :)
C-type personality:
Descriptive words: Cautious, compliance wanting, competent, conscientious, cognitive, correct ;), careful, conformist, calculating, consistent, critical thinking, can come off as cold- so be careful of this
Strengths: Gifted, analytical, sensitive, perfectionistic, aesthetic, idealistic, loyal, self-sacrificing, thorough
If personality gets out of control, they can be: compulsive, critical, unsociable, prying, easily offended, fearful, inflexible, doubtful, worrisome, picky
When personality is in control, they are: orderly, logical, intense, curious, teachable, cautious, correct, questioning, conscientious, precise
C types make good: accountants, architects, artists, authors, bankers, bookkeepers, composers, computer programmers, consultants, dentists, engineers, finishing carpenters, inventors, lawyers, librarians, mechanics, military intelligence, musicians, philosophers, photographers, physicians, pilots, professors, scientists, surgeons, and teachers!
S-type Personality:
Descriptive Words: Supportive, submissive, steady, shy, stable, status quo, secure, sentimental, serving, sameness, sweet, can be a sucker (get run over)
Strengths: calm, dependable, easygoing, trustworthy, efficient, practical, conservative, diplomatic, humorous
If personality gets out of control, they can be: lacking initiative, dependent, used by others, indecisive, uncommunicative, inflexible, resistant to change, easily manipulated, slow and resentful
When personality is in control, they are: relaxed, reliable, cooperative, stable, good listener, single minded, steadfast, softhearted, systematic, amiable
S-types make good: artists, chefs, child care workers, counselors, customer service representatives, department heads, diplomats, fight attendants, funeral directors, human resource directors, librarians, managers, nurses, painters, pharmacists, pastors, planners, real estate agents, researchers, school teachers, secretaries, social workers, supervisors, technicians, veterinarians, waiters/waitresses
So that's you Meggy! The most beneficial part of learning your personality type is learning your strengths and weaknesses. This way you can focus on improving your weaknesses, and strengthening your strengths! It is also important to identify other people's personalities, so when you are dealing with them you know their perspective and can adapt to it!
There is SO much more you can learn about personalities which are in Dr. Rohm's book, Personality Insights. I suggest buying a copy if you want to learn more about yourself and how to deal with others!
I'm so proud of you and what you are accomplishing lately! Keep going girl, there is so much greatness ahead of you :)
XOXO,
Brooke
Ok, so last week I posted about a seminar I went to where we learned about different personalities. You let me know that you are a cautious type- followed by sensitive! Here are some of the traits about each of these personalities :)
C-type personality:
Descriptive words: Cautious, compliance wanting, competent, conscientious, cognitive, correct ;), careful, conformist, calculating, consistent, critical thinking, can come off as cold- so be careful of this
Strengths: Gifted, analytical, sensitive, perfectionistic, aesthetic, idealistic, loyal, self-sacrificing, thorough
If personality gets out of control, they can be: compulsive, critical, unsociable, prying, easily offended, fearful, inflexible, doubtful, worrisome, picky
When personality is in control, they are: orderly, logical, intense, curious, teachable, cautious, correct, questioning, conscientious, precise
C types make good: accountants, architects, artists, authors, bankers, bookkeepers, composers, computer programmers, consultants, dentists, engineers, finishing carpenters, inventors, lawyers, librarians, mechanics, military intelligence, musicians, philosophers, photographers, physicians, pilots, professors, scientists, surgeons, and teachers!
S-type Personality:
Descriptive Words: Supportive, submissive, steady, shy, stable, status quo, secure, sentimental, serving, sameness, sweet, can be a sucker (get run over)
Strengths: calm, dependable, easygoing, trustworthy, efficient, practical, conservative, diplomatic, humorous
If personality gets out of control, they can be: lacking initiative, dependent, used by others, indecisive, uncommunicative, inflexible, resistant to change, easily manipulated, slow and resentful
When personality is in control, they are: relaxed, reliable, cooperative, stable, good listener, single minded, steadfast, softhearted, systematic, amiable
S-types make good: artists, chefs, child care workers, counselors, customer service representatives, department heads, diplomats, fight attendants, funeral directors, human resource directors, librarians, managers, nurses, painters, pharmacists, pastors, planners, real estate agents, researchers, school teachers, secretaries, social workers, supervisors, technicians, veterinarians, waiters/waitresses
So that's you Meggy! The most beneficial part of learning your personality type is learning your strengths and weaknesses. This way you can focus on improving your weaknesses, and strengthening your strengths! It is also important to identify other people's personalities, so when you are dealing with them you know their perspective and can adapt to it!
There is SO much more you can learn about personalities which are in Dr. Rohm's book, Personality Insights. I suggest buying a copy if you want to learn more about yourself and how to deal with others!
I'm so proud of you and what you are accomplishing lately! Keep going girl, there is so much greatness ahead of you :)
XOXO,
Brooke
Wednesday, September 12, 2012
Personality Insights
Dear Meagan,
Girl, you are on absolute fire lately organizing your locks of love event and rocking your German class! I'm so pumped for you and all that you are achieving :)
So I know you recently read/ are reading personality plus but I went to a Personality Insights training by Dr. Robert Rohm lately and it was very interesting, I thought you may like to know some of the results!
First answer this question:
Are you more outgoing or reserved?
Then answer this question:
Are you more task oriented or people oriented? (aka if you have tasks on your to do list do you like to accomplish those before hanging out with people, or do people come first then tasks?)
If you answered outgoing-task, then you are a Dominant personality type.
If you answered outgoing-people, then you are a Inspiring personality type.
If you answered reserved-task, then you are a Cautious personality type.
If you answered reserved-people, then you are a Sensitive personality type.
Everyone is a unique combination of the personality types so it's possible you could be 51% one type and 49% another!
Dominant personalities like to take charge in situations and are high achievers but can seem bossy.
Inspiring personalities bring the fun and make people feel comfortable but they can be kind of um, flighty.
Cautious personalities are very organized and smart, but they can come off as cold.
Sensitive personalities are very sweet, caring and easily make friends, but can get run over by others easily.
The cool thing about this is that the personality most opposite of yours, is the person you need most in your life. These people can teach you the most, because they are most unlike you!
Let me know what your personality type is and I will fill you in more, it's fun stuff!
In the mean time, keep rocking it out girlie! You are on your way there is no doubt about that :)
XOXO,
Brooke
Girl, you are on absolute fire lately organizing your locks of love event and rocking your German class! I'm so pumped for you and all that you are achieving :)
So I know you recently read/ are reading personality plus but I went to a Personality Insights training by Dr. Robert Rohm lately and it was very interesting, I thought you may like to know some of the results!
First answer this question:
Are you more outgoing or reserved?
Then answer this question:
Are you more task oriented or people oriented? (aka if you have tasks on your to do list do you like to accomplish those before hanging out with people, or do people come first then tasks?)
If you answered outgoing-task, then you are a Dominant personality type.
If you answered outgoing-people, then you are a Inspiring personality type.
If you answered reserved-task, then you are a Cautious personality type.
If you answered reserved-people, then you are a Sensitive personality type.
Everyone is a unique combination of the personality types so it's possible you could be 51% one type and 49% another!
Dominant personalities like to take charge in situations and are high achievers but can seem bossy.
Inspiring personalities bring the fun and make people feel comfortable but they can be kind of um, flighty.
Cautious personalities are very organized and smart, but they can come off as cold.
Sensitive personalities are very sweet, caring and easily make friends, but can get run over by others easily.
The cool thing about this is that the personality most opposite of yours, is the person you need most in your life. These people can teach you the most, because they are most unlike you!
Let me know what your personality type is and I will fill you in more, it's fun stuff!
In the mean time, keep rocking it out girlie! You are on your way there is no doubt about that :)
XOXO,
Brooke
Thursday, September 6, 2012
Changes
Dear Meagan,
So as you grow and start to experience new things post-surgeries, good and positive changes will be happening around you. If things never changed we would never get the opportunity to grow and be the person God intended us to be. We just have to have faith that whatever is changing is good for our big picture.
I am so proud of you taking your German class and getting back on the horse :) It's a change in your life, and it's for the better. This change is helping you get to your goal of sustaining and providing for yourself. Some big changes can be a little intimidating, but as long as you take them in baby steps and just roll day by day with it, you won't have any problems!
Change is necessary throughout life, and people who adapt to the changes they encounter are able to succeed and live a satisfying life.
Here are some reasons that change is good from the inspirationreport.com:
1). Changes makes you flexible. Being stubborn and resistant to new things will make a normally stressing situation even more so. Change helps you be fluid and go with the flow. 2). Change makes you smarter. If things never changed, you’d never learn anything new. And every time you learn a new skill — even if it’s just how to adapt — you are that much smarter than you were yesterday.
3). Change reminds us that anything is possible. It’s easy to think that anything that’s stuck will always be that way (i.e., the career that won’t lift off the ground or the marriage that’s coasting on neutral). But when you see things change, whether it’s in your life or some one else’s, it’s encouragement to know that nothing stays the same forever.
So as you grow and start to experience new things post-surgeries, good and positive changes will be happening around you. If things never changed we would never get the opportunity to grow and be the person God intended us to be. We just have to have faith that whatever is changing is good for our big picture.
I am so proud of you taking your German class and getting back on the horse :) It's a change in your life, and it's for the better. This change is helping you get to your goal of sustaining and providing for yourself. Some big changes can be a little intimidating, but as long as you take them in baby steps and just roll day by day with it, you won't have any problems!
Change is necessary throughout life, and people who adapt to the changes they encounter are able to succeed and live a satisfying life.
Here are some reasons that change is good from the inspirationreport.com:
1). Changes makes you flexible. Being stubborn and resistant to new things will make a normally stressing situation even more so. Change helps you be fluid and go with the flow. 2). Change makes you smarter. If things never changed, you’d never learn anything new. And every time you learn a new skill — even if it’s just how to adapt — you are that much smarter than you were yesterday.
3). Change reminds us that anything is possible. It’s easy to think that anything that’s stuck will always be that way (i.e., the career that won’t lift off the ground or the marriage that’s coasting on neutral). But when you see things change, whether it’s in your life or some one else’s, it’s encouragement to know that nothing stays the same forever.
Wednesday, August 29, 2012
Learn to laugh at yourself
Dear Meagan,
First off I just have to say, great job with your kidney surgery! I am proud of you and admire you for fighting through the challenges, knowing that god is preparing you for something great :)
So this blog is just going to consist of a quick life lesson that in my (not so professional) opinion is the best lesson we can learn:
"Learn to laugh at yourself"
Which strangely enough can go hand in hand with:
"Get back on the horse"
As you and I know NO human being is perfect, not a single one, in fact no one is even close. We ALL make mistakes, big ones, small ones, medium size ones... but we all make mistakes and often!
When you make a mistake there are two ways to handle it...
1) Get really embarrassed, curl up into a ball, avoid confronting people your mistake may have affected, admit defeat, and feel lousy about yourself.
OR...
2) Shake your head, roll your eyes, and LAUGH! Think, "oh my gosh here I go again..." and laugh OUT LOUD, tell whoever the mistake may affect that your sorry (depending on the situation perhaps with a smile on your face) and you can't believe you are so silly sometimes... but hey your human, and you make mistakes just like everyone else. Next, think of how you can prevent it in the future, smile, and feel good about the learning experience.
I bet you know which one is the correct one :) But how does that relate to 'get back on the horse'?
When we laugh (out loud) at our mistakes then we don't beat ourselves up or get down about our quirks, instead we evaluate, smile, and move on aka 'get back on the horse.' There is no need to be upset about a mistake you have made, even if it has happened before. Make a mental note about how you can improve in the future, smile and your good to go.
I want you right now to think about a recent mistake you made....
Got it? Now think about being in that situation and making that mistake, but don't let yourself feel the guilt. SMILE about it, shake your head and LAUGH OUT LOUD... here we go again, right? Trust that it's OK, think to yourself what you will do next time and let out one more laugh before tucking it away and moving on with your day.
Always remember no matter how big the mistake your family will ALWAYS love you. All you have to do is laugh as you learn and try to improve in your personal growth every chance you get.
Love you sista! Can't wait to see you this weekend :)
XOXO,
Brooke
First off I just have to say, great job with your kidney surgery! I am proud of you and admire you for fighting through the challenges, knowing that god is preparing you for something great :)
So this blog is just going to consist of a quick life lesson that in my (not so professional) opinion is the best lesson we can learn:
"Learn to laugh at yourself"
Which strangely enough can go hand in hand with:
"Get back on the horse"
As you and I know NO human being is perfect, not a single one, in fact no one is even close. We ALL make mistakes, big ones, small ones, medium size ones... but we all make mistakes and often!
When you make a mistake there are two ways to handle it...
1) Get really embarrassed, curl up into a ball, avoid confronting people your mistake may have affected, admit defeat, and feel lousy about yourself.
OR...
2) Shake your head, roll your eyes, and LAUGH! Think, "oh my gosh here I go again..." and laugh OUT LOUD, tell whoever the mistake may affect that your sorry (depending on the situation perhaps with a smile on your face) and you can't believe you are so silly sometimes... but hey your human, and you make mistakes just like everyone else. Next, think of how you can prevent it in the future, smile, and feel good about the learning experience.
I bet you know which one is the correct one :) But how does that relate to 'get back on the horse'?
When we laugh (out loud) at our mistakes then we don't beat ourselves up or get down about our quirks, instead we evaluate, smile, and move on aka 'get back on the horse.' There is no need to be upset about a mistake you have made, even if it has happened before. Make a mental note about how you can improve in the future, smile and your good to go.
I want you right now to think about a recent mistake you made....
Got it? Now think about being in that situation and making that mistake, but don't let yourself feel the guilt. SMILE about it, shake your head and LAUGH OUT LOUD... here we go again, right? Trust that it's OK, think to yourself what you will do next time and let out one more laugh before tucking it away and moving on with your day.
Always remember no matter how big the mistake your family will ALWAYS love you. All you have to do is laugh as you learn and try to improve in your personal growth every chance you get.
Love you sista! Can't wait to see you this weekend :)
XOXO,
Brooke
Thursday, August 23, 2012
Surgery Prayer :)
Dear Meagan,
So tomorrow is the big day! I know you are excited to get it over and done with. They are just putting a temporary shunt/stint in your kidney to hopefully solve this 'blockage' and see what the deal is. So we are just hoping it works, issue solved, and when you are ready they can put the real deal in there! I love you girl, you are an absolute CHAMPION and FIGHTER and this little operation is so tiny compared to what you have already overcome! You have shown us that the saying, "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" is an absolute truth. And your strength is going to come in handy tomorrow :)
Ok so I definitely did not write this prayer entirely myself but this is what I will be praying for you tonight and tomorrow and if anyone is reading this please pray for her too! We want this shunt/stint to be the solution and for the surgery to go smoothly and quickly without complications :) We already know Meagan can pull through everything- lets reassure that with this prayer!
"Loving Father, I entrust Meagan to your care tomorrow morning; guide with wisdom and skill the minds and hands of the medical people who minister in your Name. Lord, I trust there will be no further complications following this operation, grant that every cause of illness be removed, so she may be restored to soundness of health and learn to live in more perfect harmony with you and with those around her. Through Jesus Christ. Amen."
Love you sis! Your a rock star and you can do this <3
XOXO,
Brooke
So tomorrow is the big day! I know you are excited to get it over and done with. They are just putting a temporary shunt/stint in your kidney to hopefully solve this 'blockage' and see what the deal is. So we are just hoping it works, issue solved, and when you are ready they can put the real deal in there! I love you girl, you are an absolute CHAMPION and FIGHTER and this little operation is so tiny compared to what you have already overcome! You have shown us that the saying, "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" is an absolute truth. And your strength is going to come in handy tomorrow :)
Ok so I definitely did not write this prayer entirely myself but this is what I will be praying for you tonight and tomorrow and if anyone is reading this please pray for her too! We want this shunt/stint to be the solution and for the surgery to go smoothly and quickly without complications :) We already know Meagan can pull through everything- lets reassure that with this prayer!
"Loving Father, I entrust Meagan to your care tomorrow morning; guide with wisdom and skill the minds and hands of the medical people who minister in your Name. Lord, I trust there will be no further complications following this operation, grant that every cause of illness be removed, so she may be restored to soundness of health and learn to live in more perfect harmony with you and with those around her. Through Jesus Christ. Amen."
Love you sis! Your a rock star and you can do this <3
XOXO,
Brooke
Thursday, August 16, 2012
A Hiccup
Dear Meagan,
Sooooo... we just found out that one of your kidney's isn't doing what it should (silly thing). And I just wanted to take this blog to tell you how proud of you I am for not letting this 'hiccup' effect you.
In one week (ok 8.5 days) you'll get that little tiny shunt put in there to see if it'll help make you as good as new ;) And EVERY, I mean EVERY time I've talked to you about it, you have been so positive it amazes me!
You just say, "Ugh my kidney hurts, can't wait to get this over with so I can move on!" Now THAT my friend is the right attitude :) On your facebook wall I wrote that at this point, we know you can get through anything and I mean it!
Meggy you have overcome more than what a lot of people have to deal with in a lifetime, and your only 22! You have INCREDIBLE strength. I know it's hard to look at the good things that have resulted from your struggles. But I hope your "I can do anything" attitude about your kidney surgery helps you realize that you have developed the ability to overcome any obstacle.
Anything that you set your sights or your hopes on, you can achieve. Some things may be harder than others, but you have strength that I admire, all obstacles will be nothing but 'hiccups' to you! At first I was going to call this post 'a bump in the road' but honestly it's not even that to you! It's not even as big as a bump in your mind, just a small 'hiccup.' Meggers that is AMAZING!
I love you and I just really hope you know that whatever goals you write down, and consistently work towards you can do. I believe you will be fully supporting and taking care of yourself in the next couple months with all of the progress you have made, which is unbelievable :)
So soooo soooooo PROUD of ya sis!
XOXO,
Brooke
Sooooo... we just found out that one of your kidney's isn't doing what it should (silly thing). And I just wanted to take this blog to tell you how proud of you I am for not letting this 'hiccup' effect you.
In one week (ok 8.5 days) you'll get that little tiny shunt put in there to see if it'll help make you as good as new ;) And EVERY, I mean EVERY time I've talked to you about it, you have been so positive it amazes me!
You just say, "Ugh my kidney hurts, can't wait to get this over with so I can move on!" Now THAT my friend is the right attitude :) On your facebook wall I wrote that at this point, we know you can get through anything and I mean it!
Meggy you have overcome more than what a lot of people have to deal with in a lifetime, and your only 22! You have INCREDIBLE strength. I know it's hard to look at the good things that have resulted from your struggles. But I hope your "I can do anything" attitude about your kidney surgery helps you realize that you have developed the ability to overcome any obstacle.
Anything that you set your sights or your hopes on, you can achieve. Some things may be harder than others, but you have strength that I admire, all obstacles will be nothing but 'hiccups' to you! At first I was going to call this post 'a bump in the road' but honestly it's not even that to you! It's not even as big as a bump in your mind, just a small 'hiccup.' Meggers that is AMAZING!
I love you and I just really hope you know that whatever goals you write down, and consistently work towards you can do. I believe you will be fully supporting and taking care of yourself in the next couple months with all of the progress you have made, which is unbelievable :)
So soooo soooooo PROUD of ya sis!
XOXO,
Brooke
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